Saturday, February 22, 2014
Don't destroy your fruits
Trying to understand how can someone want and try to build a relationship with all there ex-s children and unable to contain a relationship with their own kids. Being a parent doesn't end it's a full-time job no matter your situation. If you haven't been there to your kids don't assume that you are just going to walk back in and just pick up the pieces. Those kids will have some sort of animosity towards you. The small ones might night say much, but believe it they are watching. The older ones are going to challenge your authority. They want answers and they want apologizes don't point any fingers at the parent that has been around either, because even if that parent wasn't the best parent you don't hold any brownie stripes. You don't need to be there friends, but if they are grown and they try to build a relationship with them you be a dad or a mom. Offer up advice and give them support or you will be alone in the end.
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Good point! My dad left when I was only 3 and his new girlfriend had 2 kids and guess who got a dad? Not me!!!! He left and when I was about 15, he called and tried to tell me what to do and how to behave. Needless to say that conversation didn't last. I never spoke to him again and then he passed away. Guess I should have taken that moment. :(
ReplyDeleteI really feel what you are saying. Unfortunately, many of us men have be guilty of this in some way. A man that has children and is not their role model, should not be considered the right example for a new girlfriend's children.
ReplyDeleteits always hard to be around someone you don't know to well especially when they are use to be around you. they might feel like your replace someone else or you might not be there for their best interest.
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