It's funny how kids want to be grown in there parents house and can't wait to leave, because they seem to forget we was small at one time too. I so laugh when I here my kids and they're friends stay and say they are going to do so many things not realizing that life hits you just the minute you decide to be grown.
As the old people say you want to be grown when grown things start to happen don't call me. I laugh because I too remember wanting to grow up and be on my own and do my own stuff. Because Mom and Dad was just to hard and always want to dictate my goings and my comings. Then I realize how good I had it not having to pay any bills and spend my money how I wanted too and on what I wanted to.
Kids don't no how good we have it when we are small until life hits us. When you aren't the parents you have no worry or stress. Growing up happens and then boom life happens..
Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Saturday, January 25, 2014
Lost my Love
Lost my Love on June 23,2008 he decided that it was time for him to say Goodbye. My lost love was my Dad. For me he gave me love like no other he held my hands and made me feel safe, kissed me on my forehead to offer security. That was my dad he was a strong dapper man. He instilled in me that I was beautiful and to love me first and all the other love will follow. When I needed encouragement he offered it to me. He would always say to me " Be strong hold your head up don't let nothing or no one stop you from believing that what you set your mind to is worth fighting to far." I had the pleasure of being raised with both parents. We had our fun times and we also seen sum hard times, but true it all we remembered to share love. My dad was surely the disciplinarian in the house. He layed the laws and he made sure they were kept. Me and my dad didn't always get around I thought he was the meanest person and always believed that everything had to solved with a spanking. For me it was so unfair because I had to take all the licks seeing as I was the only child.
When I had my first child my dad was so upset to hear that I was having a baby, but when my son was born my dad feel in love with him as if he was his own son. I looked at my dad in a whole new light he showed my son so much love. He made sure he feed him and took him for walks people would say to me we say your dad walking your son this morning again. As my daughter came he did the same with her he nurtured my kids. He thought them about themselves and believing in themselves. So love we knew and love I shared with my kids.
The day my dad left this earth I had recently moved to Orlando and I use to call my parents every weekend to talk to them. When I called my mom said my dad wasn't feeling well I asked to speak to him and we spoke I asked him what was happening and he explained the pain as gas. Little did we know that would be the last nite that we saw him my mom went and made him some tea as me and my dad stayed on the phone. Mom came and gave him the cup just a we had finished praying our lord prayer. He took the cup he drank the tea and next thing I no I heard the cup drop, my dad said he was going to lay down in the bed, my dad stayed and was having a heart attack and he took his last breathe as my mom stayed in the back asking him not to leave her here alone. On June 23,2008 is the day I Lost my Love. My Dad
When I had my first child my dad was so upset to hear that I was having a baby, but when my son was born my dad feel in love with him as if he was his own son. I looked at my dad in a whole new light he showed my son so much love. He made sure he feed him and took him for walks people would say to me we say your dad walking your son this morning again. As my daughter came he did the same with her he nurtured my kids. He thought them about themselves and believing in themselves. So love we knew and love I shared with my kids.
The day my dad left this earth I had recently moved to Orlando and I use to call my parents every weekend to talk to them. When I called my mom said my dad wasn't feeling well I asked to speak to him and we spoke I asked him what was happening and he explained the pain as gas. Little did we know that would be the last nite that we saw him my mom went and made him some tea as me and my dad stayed on the phone. Mom came and gave him the cup just a we had finished praying our lord prayer. He took the cup he drank the tea and next thing I no I heard the cup drop, my dad said he was going to lay down in the bed, my dad stayed and was having a heart attack and he took his last breathe as my mom stayed in the back asking him not to leave her here alone. On June 23,2008 is the day I Lost my Love. My Dad
Then and Know
Isn't funny how our parent's would always say you ain't doing anything that I haven't seen or tried before. Look around what do you see. The styles that our parents used to where are coming back with a new spin. When we were being raised by our parents we thought that the rules and the guidelines were old-fashion, but it kept us in line. As we raise our own kids we try to instill the things our parents instilled in us in them. We find ourselves saying the same thing to them that our parents said to us. Is it a cycle or is it the value that was instilled in us.
We find that the things we were thought as a child has made us who we are today. And even though life comes and hit us with those huge road blocks we seem to always remember the things that we were taught. The teachings of the neighbor, the man or woman on the corner, the lunch lady, bus driver didn't matter who it was we got a word and at the time it just didn't make any sense we listened and just went on our own merry way.
Coming up the people in the community looked out for one another there was a sense of stability in the neighborhood. There was respect amongst everyone and children did as they were told not as they wanted. Know a days can not speak to any one kids without them cursing at you and then their parent coming and doing the same. Sometimes you have to wonder why that kid is acting that way then you see the parent and you get a better understanding. As the old folks say the apple don't fall from the tree. I'll take the old school values any day over the one's they have know..
We find that the things we were thought as a child has made us who we are today. And even though life comes and hit us with those huge road blocks we seem to always remember the things that we were taught. The teachings of the neighbor, the man or woman on the corner, the lunch lady, bus driver didn't matter who it was we got a word and at the time it just didn't make any sense we listened and just went on our own merry way.
Coming up the people in the community looked out for one another there was a sense of stability in the neighborhood. There was respect amongst everyone and children did as they were told not as they wanted. Know a days can not speak to any one kids without them cursing at you and then their parent coming and doing the same. Sometimes you have to wonder why that kid is acting that way then you see the parent and you get a better understanding. As the old folks say the apple don't fall from the tree. I'll take the old school values any day over the one's they have know..
Wednesday, January 15, 2014
Simplicity of life
Where has family time gone? Why do we go out and purchase a dining room table if we don't sit down and socialize at it anymore. Do we just purchase one because it a common thing to do? How many families actually sit down and eat at there table and sit and conversate this was the purpose of the dining table. I think that we have become so distant from each other that we see each other as we pass in the halls of our house. We spends so many time in front of the TV or we are on our cell phones and if we do communicate it's a very vague conversation. We need to come back to the simple things of life when we cared how each other day was and how you feeling. Because everyone is so wrapped up in there little own world do we even make memories anymore. Memories are what keeps the pleasures of families alive.
We need to spend time with our kids, because they grow so fast and before you no it they will be having families of there own. When was the last time you had a family night were everyone just sat down around the TV and agreed on a movie to watch not a reality show and pop some popcorn and just laugh and cried.
TV has also taking the place of us raising our kids, where we just put them there in order for them to be out of our way. We are so busy doing the things that we do we forget that the little people need to have bonding time with us.
The dining room was a place for families to come together and unwind know it's a place where we all just eat and run. It's like a drive thru you pick up and go. We need to get back to the Simple Things In Life where you sat and just unwind without being on the cellphones and checking your Facebook page and Instagram and Twitter. Life is so Simple and we take it for granted.
We need to spend time with our kids, because they grow so fast and before you no it they will be having families of there own. When was the last time you had a family night were everyone just sat down around the TV and agreed on a movie to watch not a reality show and pop some popcorn and just laugh and cried.
TV has also taking the place of us raising our kids, where we just put them there in order for them to be out of our way. We are so busy doing the things that we do we forget that the little people need to have bonding time with us.
The dining room was a place for families to come together and unwind know it's a place where we all just eat and run. It's like a drive thru you pick up and go. We need to get back to the Simple Things In Life where you sat and just unwind without being on the cellphones and checking your Facebook page and Instagram and Twitter. Life is so Simple and we take it for granted.
Saturday, January 11, 2014
Limitations
I no that as a child we were told you never let your right hand know what the left hand is doing, but when that comes into a relationship I believe there are certain boundaries. The past should be left in the past unless it is worth the share, because they are certain things that you share that seem to keep coming up over and over. So when do you draw the line and just keep certain things to oneself. Do you tell if a ex is coming in town to visit. Do you tell why you and your ex broke up, do you tell how you enjoyed certain things that you and your friends did.
Is there certain things that you shouldn't compare and contrast in your current relationship. What is enough and what is too much.
You feel that certain things should be told because you don't want to keep any secrets ad then they come out in conversations with family or friends. So what are the limit when it comes to being open in a relationship?
Is there certain things that you shouldn't compare and contrast in your current relationship. What is enough and what is too much.
You feel that certain things should be told because you don't want to keep any secrets ad then they come out in conversations with family or friends. So what are the limit when it comes to being open in a relationship?
Wednesday, January 8, 2014
Obstacles
This my returning week at school I'm really excited because I have been waiting for this day to come. I have had a lot of obstacles that had me falter. But I won't let that be an excuse for me not to keep going. As grown up we all have faced this thing called life that picks you up and takes you places you haven't or even thought you would be.
I believe that you are what you allow yourself to be. You can never allow yourself to feel that anyone is at a better place than you. You just have to believe that you are where your suppose to be, because of the path that you decided to choose your path was trusted in a different direction than what was expected. Expectations are like a negative force field that is placed on your head. Because if you fail at the expectations then you feel that you are a disappointment. You have to dig deep inside your self and find that will to keep going. There will always be something that will get in the way, but you have to remember that life is what happens to us when we grow up and become responsible for our own decisions.
I believe that you are what you allow yourself to be. You can never allow yourself to feel that anyone is at a better place than you. You just have to believe that you are where your suppose to be, because of the path that you decided to choose your path was trusted in a different direction than what was expected. Expectations are like a negative force field that is placed on your head. Because if you fail at the expectations then you feel that you are a disappointment. You have to dig deep inside your self and find that will to keep going. There will always be something that will get in the way, but you have to remember that life is what happens to us when we grow up and become responsible for our own decisions.
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